In the new episode of Recovery ReLOVution, the show’s host, Dr. Gala Gorman, coaches listeners through a bit of self-reflection. She emphasizes, “It’s important to understand what happens when triggered emotionally. Some fight back. Others withdraw. Either way, the brain has taken action that makes it challenging to think rationally.”
To make some headway with conflicts that have been ongoing for far too long, learning to communicate in a way that the “other” can hear is crucial. When we’re in emotional pain and in a full blown triggered state, the voice in our heads screaming, “Danger … danger,” drowns out any rational thought.
In this episode, listeners will learn:
- Recognize when they’re overreacting emotionally
- Learn what to do when feeling triggered and reacting emotionally
- Communicate without escalating an emotional situation
When learning to recognize emotional triggers, it becomes evident that some people intentionally manipulate others. Gorman refers to a recent article from the Huffington Post titled “9 Signs You Are Dealing with an Emotional Manipulator.”
As Gorman points out, “We’re all emotional manipulators. When we want someone to act or react in a way that favors us, we say or do things that are intentionally designed to sway them in our direction. It’s human nature. We begin doing this from the earliest moment. Babies cry so that their caregivers are manipulated into providing for their immediate needs.”
This isn’t a problem unless it gets out of hand. At that point, it might be considered codependence, counter-dependence or even narcissism.
Recovery Stakeholders are cautioned to beware. Emotional manipulators are incredibly skilled liars. Since addicts are constantly in trouble for something, they lie and manipulate to deflect attention and avoid consequences.
Addicts insist an incident didn’t happen … when it did. They insist they did or said something … when they didn’t. And, they’re so good at it that Recovery Stakeholders end up questioning their own sanity.
To address this problem, Gorman and her partner, Charlie Frangos, created a program called “Stakeholder Sanity.” Listeners can access the program at RecoverYES.com/Sanity.
In the new episode of Recovery ReLOVution, the show’s host encourages listeners to learn to communicate in a way that the “other” can hear. When we’re in emotional pain, our reaction is likely to make any conflict worse.
For those interested in tuning into this show visit: RR 0018: Dealing with Emotional Pain for a Healthier, Happier You
In the new episode of Recovery ReLOVution, listeners will begin to understand what is happening when they are in emotional pain. Emotional pain creates a reaction known as dissociation. Often, this “go to” reaction happens on auto-pilot and keeps conflicts from being resolved. Learning to take back control in order to communicate in a way that the “other” can hear is crucial.
